We often make excuses for our behaviors as if someone else was responsible for the choices we ourselves made. Somehow perhaps we find comfort by placing blame on others for our own ill ways, when in reality, there is no one to blame, but yourself.

You can choose to struggle in life or you can choose to live. The choice is up to you. If you think for one moment that having someone in your life will allow you to become responsible for your actions and choices in life, think again. If you want perfection, then you have to become it. If you want that “perfect” mate then you have to “perfect” yourself. You have to brush off the dirt and allow yourself the purity to know who you are, before you invite someone else in.

It is amazing how much our own choices and free will can determine our quality of life. Everyone has a path in which they can follow; however there are many different forks in the road that can allow us to become sidetracked from our true destination. It is our own free will to travel these courses and our own choice to participate in whatever these paths have in store for us.

We may stray from our course from time to time, but if we are fortunate, we will recognize what feels right to us and what does not. Sometimes the line that separates the two can be difficult to determine when we are in a clouded state of mind. However, once that cloudiness clears, we are then able to feel a specific pull towards a positive decision, one not made out of will, but rather out of instinct. This is a very empowering moment of discovery because our awareness is aligned with our purpose.

As life and lifestyles speed up, so does the growing increase of the sense of longing, wandering just what else is there for ourselves, our families. Some people address their thoughts and feelings as valid and some do the exact opposite, they act as if those questions don’t exist.

For those that avoid the inner questions, they tend to feel uncertainty, depression, and weighed down. Then they seem to wonder what is wrong with them. The truth is, nothing is wrong, their bodies are doing exactly what they were intended to do… alert you that something in your life needs attention.

Life changes. Nature changes. All things go through this process of metamorphosis, where we begin as one thing and transform into another. We constantly go through cycles and levels of awareness.

Once we have settled into the arena of thinking that this is all there is, we are then challenged to turn the page and realize we are at the start of a new chapter and not at the end of the book.

If you spend most of your life in situations that provide you with hurt or shame, you become tolerant to the pain. You soon overlook the fact that it is there. You might walk around with it on a daily basis, carrying it with you always, and never fully realizing just how much it affects your life, let alone your personal well-being.

This could be a pain from your past or it could be something right in your present day life. If you are fortunate, something or someone will help you realize that you are walking around wounded. They will remind you of who you use to be or perhaps they will show you that there is a difference in life that exists beyond what you know.

When the quiet moments come upon us, we take that time to reflect on what we lost along the way. Lost loves, friendships, and maybe even relatives may come to mind. Along with those thoughts may we also may be reminded of the reasons why their presence may have been removed. Sometimes we experienced physical passing of the being in thought and other times we experience simple distance. Either way, our loss along the way was for good reason. We may not comprehend the meaning at that period in our lives, but with time, we will gain a spiritual explanation.