When we are recovering from unhealthy relationships we start to realize that we missed out on a lot of experiences that healthy relationships have. One major characteristic is trust. Trust is such a hard trait to establish in any relationship and even more so if our idea of trust was damaged from prior relationships. We carry with us a fear of trusting someone we are close to because we are afraid of that trust being broken again.

This is a very healthy fear to have, after all, we are trying to make better choices for ourselves and the relationships that we involve ourselves in. We do have to protect our best interest and not be so naïve to the fact that others don’t always have our well being at heart. However, there will come a time when we meet someone that we are actually able to open up to and begin to rebuild some of our issues with trust. This event will be a very interesting time for anyone who has had several unhealthy relationships as it will be a breath of fresh air. This moment may come soon after an unhealthy relationship, or it may come after years of self exploration. Whenever the time comes, be confident and know that this is practice for you to experience aspects of a healthy relationship. Any new way of life takes practice. As you begin entering healthier relationships, you will acquire this new way of living no matter how awkward this may feel.

As life and lifestyles speed up, so does the growing increase of the sense of longing, wandering just what else is there for ourselves, our families. Some people address their thoughts and feelings as valid and some do the exact opposite, they act as if those questions don’t exist.

For those that avoid the inner questions, they tend to feel uncertainty, depression, and weighed down. Then they seem to wonder what is wrong with them. The truth is, nothing is wrong, their bodies are doing exactly what they were intended to do… alert you that something in your life needs attention.

Some people feel that they can prevent themselves from any form of hurt. They insist that is this is the way that they must live in order to live happily. That may sound like a noble way of life, but you must think, if we block all of our ‘hurt,’ what else do we block? The answer is, we block ourselves from love.

People become so concerned with protecting themselves from hurt that they try to prevent people from loving and caring for them. They try to stop themselves from being close to others because that might leave them feeling vulnerable to hurt. So what happens is initially they may allow themselves to feel love or have emotions for someone but then when they feel the person becomes too close, they shut their emotions off.

It is not love itself that fails, it is the people involved in the love. Love in itself is perfect, however the people who fall in love are not. So it is only natural for imperfections to exist, but let us not blame love nor fear it’s existence.

Our experiences with love are always different. There is the type of love we have for our family. There is the type of love we hold for friendships and then there is the type of love we hold for our life partners. All these forms of love touch us on many levels and because we are involved with different people, we have different experiences with each one. If we can accept this concept and we can come to agreement with ourselves that all occurrences of love are different, then how could we possibly blame one experience for the other? We can’t.

A lot of people think that there is one and only one person out there in this physical world that they can call as their soulmate. However, that is not always true. In fact, we may prohibit our own growth by leaving such a constraint on ourselves.

Let us first define the meaning or definition of a soulmate. A soulmate is a half of the whole. A soulmate represents completeness and balance. One will commonly be overwhelmed or taken back by the emotions they encounter when they meet or are reunited. They will feel as if though they know one another. They feel as though they are ‘home.’

There are many times and points in our lives when we will experience an indifference with the ones we love. It would only be natural to want to turn the other cheek and move on, after all that might seem like the easiest solution at the time. The challenge however for true companions is to cut through the confusion and remember your initial intentions with one another, to love. Too much time is wasted in the perils of arguments and disagreements. If you can remind one another of the love you share, you can work through the thickness of confusion.