Some people feel that they can prevent themselves from any form of hurt. They insist that is this is the way that they must live in order to live happily. That may sound like a noble way of life, but you must think, if we block all of our ‘hurt,’ what else do we block? The answer is, we block ourselves from love.
People become so concerned with protecting themselves from hurt that they try to prevent people from loving and caring for them. They try to stop themselves from being close to others because that might leave them feeling vulnerable to hurt. So what happens is initially they may allow themselves to feel love or have emotions for someone but then when they feel the person becomes too close, they shut their emotions off.
It is not love itself that fails, it is the people involved in the love. Love in itself is perfect, however the people who fall in love are not. So it is only natural for imperfections to exist, but let us not blame love nor fear it’s existence.
Our experiences with love are always different. There is the type of love we have for our family. There is the type of love we hold for friendships and then there is the type of love we hold for our life partners. All these forms of love touch us on many levels and because we are involved with different people, we have different experiences with each one. If we can accept this concept and we can come to agreement with ourselves that all occurrences of love are different, then how could we possibly blame one experience for the other? We can’t.
There are many times and points in our lives when we will experience an indifference with the ones we love. It would only be natural to want to turn the other cheek and move on, after all that might seem like the easiest solution at the time. The challenge however for true companions is to cut through the confusion and remember your initial intentions with one another, to love. Too much time is wasted in the perils of arguments and disagreements. If you can remind one another of the love you share, you can work through the thickness of confusion.
When we love someone in its truest of form, it is a pure love, a love with no conditions. Love out of purity can develop over time or be instantaneous in some situations.
When we love or care for someone unconditionally it is because we want to, not because we feel we have to. We don’t love that person because of what they do for us. We don’t love them because we want something that they have. We love them because we have a special place reserved in our hearts and in our spirits specifically for them. This love is unshaken because it is based on truth not on convenience.
